hide xbox profiles on java

annoyingly I had a really old xbox 360 account so when I migrated from a mojang account it started using this decades old abandoned xbox 360 account.

I am having friends telling me they are pinging me and all sorts .... I do not want xbox to show me online if I have insomnia and decide to play minecraft at 1:30am, what is worse those friends can interact with the xbox account while in java minecraft those interactions don't show to me at all!

additionally that account is stuck with the garbage tier auto generated name "mercenary druid", with a xbox 360 avatrar picture,

seems like there is no way to change the name without paying and comically you can't change the avatar image without an xbox !! Microsoft small indie company ?

TLDR

add an option to NOT sign the xbox account or an option make xbox profile Invisible when logging while using the java minecraft client? it serves no purpose if being shown online on xbox provides no features.